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In Surfside: Processing Communal Grief
into his hat.

“This card
became something
that everybody
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wanted,” said the rabbi,
IF THERE’S ONE THING speaking from his office in the
Rabbi Sholom Lipskar wants to Chabad synagogue he runs just
remember from the aftermath a few blocks away from what
of the Surfside condo collapse was once Champlain Towers
in June, it’s the small cards South.

For Lipskar, the cards epito-
that he distributed to the first
mize his efforts, sometimes
responders and search-and-
onerous, to keep sight of the
rescue teams working at the site.

positivity that came out of the
Inscribed with Psalm 23, a
Surfside collapse,
in which 97
psalm often recited in times
people were
killed. of trouble that begins with
the words “The Lord is my
“Sometimes from tragedy,
shepherd, I shall not want,” the from darkness, you can bring
cards were meant to protect out a sense of humanness and
and inspire those charged with decency,” he said. “The nations
Rabbi Sholom Lipskar listens as Florida Gov. Ron DeSantis speaks during a press conference at the Shul of
extracting survivors and, later, of the world, their objective is
Bal Harbour on June 14 in Surfside, Florida.
Joe Raedle/Getty Images via JTA.org
recovering bodies.

to create a civilization, a moral,
Lipskar estimated that he ethical civilization. It’s the objec-
gave out as many as 800 of the tive of the Jew to infuse that
The cards also reflect the to share a message advanced and Schneerson hoped that
cards and recalled meeting a civilization with holiness, with significant role that Lipskar by Rabbi Menachem Mendel a successful synagogue there
firefighter who kept his tucked divinity, with purpose, meaning.” and his synagogue, The Shul, Schneerson, the leader of the could pave the way for others
played in the community both Chabad movement who died in similar locations.

before and after the collapse. in 1994.

“I was not excited about it,”
Days before the collapse, the
“The Rebbe said no, you Chani Lipskar, Lipskar’s wife,
synagogue hosted Florida Gov. don’t talk about the past as told Chabad.org about the
Ron DeSantis as he signed negative,” Lipskar said.

move. “The thought of leaving
two bills that Lipskar and his
“There’s a Rosh Hashanah everything we knew behind
community had backed. In the prayer that you begin the prayer and moving to this place that
moments and days after the with, you know, ‘Goodbye to is so not welcoming to Jewish
building fell, the synagogue the past year that was filled people was not something that I
emerged as a hub for first with difficulty and challenges, was looking forward to. But we
responders and families of the and hello to the new year, that wrote to the rebbe and the rebbe
missing while they waited for it should be with blessing,’” wrote back, ‘nachon hadavar,’
news about their loved ones.

he added. “We say thank you it’s the right thing to do.”
And in the weeks that Hashem [God] for allowing us
Putting up the town’s first
followed, as the community to live through that challenge public menorah for Chanukah
continued to process its grief and for giving us the strength — a hallmark of Chabad
while the rest of the country to be where we are today so we outreach in any community —
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theological explanation for it.

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going to continue to base my Jews or Black people to join.

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A social hall under construction in The Shul, a synagogue in Surfside,
Florida, is piled high with donations for homeless families less than 18
hours after a nearby building collapsed on June 25.

Photo by Ron Kampeas via JTA.org.

country flock to the towns for
their numerous upscale kosher
restaurants just a few minutes
from the beach, and the
multitude of prayer services
available nearby on Shabbat
and throughout the week. And
The Shul has grown by leaps
and bounds, having announced
a major expansion in 2016
that would double its size and
add a glass-walled social hall
for seating an additional 600
to 700 people. The Shul has
approximately 700 member
families, but counts several
hundred non-member families
among its community.

“He doesn’t do anything
unless, like he says, it’s ‘over the
top,’” Gabe Groisman, mayor of
Bal Harbour, said about Lipskar.

“Really what it means is, he’s
always 100% invested in the
person that’s in front of him.”
In the days after the
collapse, the synagogue’s large
and still unfinished social
hall expansion was turned
into a distribution center for
getting essential goods to those
who had lost their homes.

Everything from underwear
to computers to toothbrushes
were stored at The Shul. To
feed the families of the missing
people and the search-and-
rescue teams that descended
on the building site, The Shul
worked with local chefs to
organize thousands of kosher
meals each day. Even though
many of the people in need of
food were not Jewish or obser-
vant, all of the food was made
to strict kosher standards.

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weeks as the search-and-rescue
teams continued to scour the
site for signs of survivors.

Through it all, Lipskar was
thinking about the dozens of
members of his community
who died in the collapse, like
Frank Kleiman, who’d recently
gotten married and started
a new company, and Harry
Rosenberg, who’d moved to
Surfside just a month before
the collapse to start over after
his wife died of cancer.

That individual attention was
nothing new. According to one
account, when Lipskar visits the
grave of the Lubavitcher Rebbe
in Queens, he brings the entire
list of his synagogue members
with him, reading through the
list and picturing each member
as he prays for them.

To Lipskar, mourning and
joy, too, each have equal roles
to play.

“Each day starts again,”
Lipskar said, launching
into a summary of his Rosh
Hashanah sermon comparing
the sun, which does not
change, to the moon, which
appears to change throughout
the month. To Lipskar, the sun
represents continuity and the
moon represents change.

“There’s the benefits of
continuity, we are standing
on the shoulders of giants.

But there’s also the recogni-
tion of renewal of new. That’s
why the day consists of sun
and moon, of continuity and
renewal,” Lipskar said. “That’s
our opportunity after this.” l
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