T orah P ortion
CAN DL E L IGHTIN G
To Eulogize and to Weep
BY RABBI SHIMON SILVER
PARSHAT CHAYEI SARAH
THIS SERMON WAS deliv-
ered Chayei Sarah 5779, one
week after the Oct. 27, 2018,
massacre at the Tree of Life
building in Pittsburgh.

Avraham came to eulogize
Sarah and to weep for her.

Avraham arose from upon
his deceased and spoke to the
Chitites saying: “I sojourn and
live in your land …”
“You are a prince of G-d in
our midst …”
From where did Avraham
come? Rashi says he came from
the Akaidah, the binding of
Yitzchok. He was informed of
the sudden death of his beloved
wife. Avraham just experienced
the height of spiritual ecstasy,
enduring the greatest test. And
immediately, he received this
terrible blow. What can one say
at a time like this?
Ramban says the Hebrew
word for “he came” is used here
to mean “he began.” In other
instances where the Torah
describes a eulogy, this term is
not used. Why is it used here?
The Hebrew terms are “to
eulogize Sarah and to weep
for her” — which means that
Avraham came with this
intention. Why does the Torah
not state in the past tense,
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only the site of the most
violent antisemitic attack in
U.S. history but also a place
where people are actively
responding to tragedy, said
Jared Cohon, a summit
steering committee member
and president emeritus at
Carnegie Mellon University.

Scott Brady, former U.S.

Attorney for the Western
JEWISHEXPONENT.COM “Avraham eulogized Sarah and
wept for her”?
It appears that Avraham
came with the intention of
eulogizing and weeping. He
even began trying to do so, but
he could not follow through. It
was just too much, too difficult.

There are situations that
are so close to the heart, so
sensitive to the self, that it
is impossible to speak about
them. What is there to say?
The massacre at the Tree of
Life building is not something
that happened somewhere
far away in some anonymous
place, that we can look at from
a safe distance and talk about.

It is not something that we
can watch on the news, talk
about for a while and then tune
out. This is here, right here. It
happened to us. It took place
right in our midst. How can we
even talk about it? What can
we say? We are silenced by our
shock and our emotions.

Most rabbis in America
probably are talking about
this “news” today, perhaps the
biggest speech of their careers.

But here, in Pittsburgh, what
should we say? It is just too
hard to say anything about this
terrible event.

The commentaries ask about
the order of “to eulogize and to
weep.” Usually, weeping comes
first, and then the eulogy.

Perhaps Avraham came with
the intention of eulogizing but
was unable to. He could only
cry. We are unable to speak,
but we can cry.

“To eulogize Sarah, and
to weep for her.” Kli Yakar
explains that Sarah was known
as the tzadekes, the righteous
woman of the world. When
he eulogized her publicly,
Avraham used her name. The
crying, however — that was
for Avraham alone. He did not
need to use her name to cry.

He was crying about himself as
much as about the loss of the
great woman. There is no need
for the Torah to mention what
Avraham cried about.

The prevailing practice is
to refrain from mentioning
the souls of the departed on
Shabbos Mevorchim, when
the new month is blessed,
which occurs today. One could
question this — some say that
Av Harachamim, the martyr’s
prayer, was instituted specifi-
cally to be recited on Shabbos
Mevorchim Iyyar and Sivan,
the period of the crusades
when they were martyred.

Furthermore, the instruction
was specifically to say it on
Shabbos, when tachanun is not
said, and when the souls are
not judged in Gehinom.

Our martyrs in Pittsburgh
entered directly into Gan Eden.

They also died on Shabbos
Kodesh, a sign of holiness.

Nevertheless, it makes no
difference whether we mention
District Pennsylvania and a
partner at Jones Day, said he was
also pleased that the summit
was occurring in Pittsburgh,
given the unique contributions
residents here can make.

When panelists and partic-
ipants come to Pittsburgh,
they’re able to see how the
community’s strength and
resilience help drive the conver-
sation forward, Brady said.

“Pittsburgh experienced
something that very few
communities in the world
have experienced,” Brady said.

“The loss that, not only the
victims’ families, but the entire
community [experienced] was
traumatic, was devastating. And
then to see how the families,
the community responded was
remarkable, and that was recog-
nized around the world.” l
Toby Tabachnick is the editor of
the Pittsburgh Jewish Chronicle,
an affiliated paper of the Jewish
Exponent. Adam Reinherz is a
reporter at that paper.

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their names or not today. The
rest of the world needs to
mention their names. The rest
of the world is eulogizing. We
are not eulogizing, for we know
not what to say. We are crying
in our hearts and minds. Just
like Avraham. Avraham might
also have wept internally but
not openly, as the Torah says
he came “to weep” but does not
say he wept. Perhaps he was
unable to weep.

It is hard for us to weep
right now. There is so much
media. It has become like a
show, like something that we
watch but do not take part in.

Like a story, with pictures and
videos. We cannot focus on
what really happened and cry
about it. Not now. Once the
media moves on, then we can
weep by ourselves.

Nonetheless, we are all
probably crying silently, afraid,
panic-stricken. To eulogize is too hard,
crying happens by itself.

But what did Avraham say
in the end, and what did the
Chitites answer him?
Avraham arose from upon
his deceased, and he spoke to
the Chitites saying: “I sojourn
and dwell with you!” A gair,
sojourner, is a stranger. A
toshav, settler, is a resident.

Avraham described himself as
a resident alien (like it says on
my Green Card). “With you”
means that he felt a certain
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equality. He was together with
them, with feelings of unity
and fraternity.

The Chitites answered: “You
are a prince of G-d amongst us!”
This much, I suspect all of us
can say: We are conspicuously
Jewish, especially those of us
who choose to dress differently.

We are seen as Jewish residents
of the Pittsburgh community. I
have lost count of the number
of people to whom I am a
stranger, a gair, yet they recog-
nize me as a local resident, a
toshav, and see me as a part
of their lives with a measure
of fraternity, who have gone
out of their way to offer me
condolences. All of them.

In the street. In the stores.

The parking lot attendant.

Neighbors, acquaintances and
total strangers. “You are a
prince of G-d amongst us!”
Our responsibility is to
recognize this. We must live
up to this. We need to make a
kiddush Hashem. Right now.

There is kiddush Hashem by
the sacrificing of lives. And
there is kiddush Hashem
after the sacrifice, when we
acknowledge the friendship of
the people of the land in whose
midst we live. l
Rabbi Shimon Silver is the spiritual
leader of Young Israel of Greater
Pittsburgh. This column is a service
of the Vaad Harabanim of Greater
Pittsburgh. from them, but wants Jewish
community members to see
past the stigma associated with
being incarcerated.

“Quite frankly, we need to
have this discussion in this
group and in every synagogue
in our country,” he said. “We
need to open our doors a little
bit wider to the men and women
that are really challenged by
the criminal justice system.” l
alienated from his commu-
nity after being indicted for
a financial crime, discon-
necting him from Judaism.

“For some reason, the
second that indictment came
down ... my synagogue doors
closed and our community
closed,” Abramowitz said.

Abramowitz admitted to srogelberg@jewishexponent.com;
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