d’var torah
Passover: Renewed and
New Meanings
BY RABBI BARRY DOV LERNER
W Passover
hat do you remember most
vividly about your earliest
seder experience?
Many of us have memories of our respec-
tive Passover experiences with the input of
family and friends, and most are pleasant if
not inspiring. And now, this year, we have
the most recent memories, supplemented
perhaps with pictures, melodies and mem-
ories of sedarim from the past.
But are we ready to say “Dayenu”
enough? Passover may now be ending
this year. However, I’m already planning
for next year. First, why?
Th e famed Reform preacher Rabbi
Stephen S. Wise oft en taught that for each
Shabbat he composed three sermons: one,
was the fi rst one he wrote; second was the
d’var Torah that he actually preached;
and last was on the way home, the one he
Obituaries should have shared.
Passover has similar parallels.
Th ere is the seder we plan; the seder we
celebrated; and then the seder we should
have planned. But there is next year for
what we will perform.
Th e recipes for each meal are reviewed
and chosen — for which they shopped
and which they presented.
Haggadot have been examined, poten-
tial seder discussion topics and new
Biblical and archaeological discoveries
that can’t be overlooked are marked with
Post-its, ready for an appearance.
However, I must also think ahead.
For next year, there are an increasing
number of seder plate symbols, so much
so that the table itself must become the
seder “plate” [k’arah] to contain them all.
Let’s plan to continue sharing a list of
all the new and innovative seder plate
symbols that has evolved to address the
issue of inclusivity and bringing in those
who still feel marginalized.
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while Helen supervised the offi ce
and maintained the family home in
Merion. It was a home fi lled with
four children, extended family, many
pets and many friends, who came
to enjoy Helen’s legendary cooking.
Helen enjoyed travel, theater, the
Culinary Arts, and most of all, her
children, grandchildren and great
grandchildren. She died peacefully
surrounded by family. She was the
wife of the late Leonard B. Simmons,
VMD (z’l); mother of Robert J. Sim-
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Some “new” additions have become
“semi-traditional” and are well-known,
such as the orange on the seder plate. I
found in my fi les one I had forgotten — an
alternative symbol for LGBTQ inclusivity.
Here is the backstory: Invited to a
seder, a guest asked the host if she could
add cinnamon sticks. When asked why,
she explained: “Judaism has made huge
strides towards inclusiveness for the
LGBT community. I chose to add cin-
namon sticks to my seder plate because
it can be bitter by itself or be used to
sweeten a greater whole; we do use it
in charoset. Many traditions use it to
symbolize spirituality, healing and love
— and when you combine them you get
acceptance. I fi nally feel the LGBT com-
munity is fully accepted by Judaism and
use the cinnamon stick to symbolize it.”
Th e host, a “Conservadox rabbi” said,
“You can never take anything away from
the seder, but you can always add. I like
the symbolism. When you come over,
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11, 2022. She is survived by her de-
voted husband of 58 years, Harvey
Yanks, and her three children, Barrie,
Lauren, and James, and her three
grandchildren, Hannah, Sophia, and
Jacob Dylan (JD). Karen was very
loved and deeply missed by all. Kar-
en was a life master bridge player
and she loved going to the movies,
fi nishing the Sunday crossword, lying
in the Florida sun, spending time with
her grandchildren, and most of all,
she cherished and was cherished by
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make sure you bring a sealed glass bottle
of cinnamon sticks so we can add one to
the seder plate.” I was so overjoyed that my
eyes began to tear. I am truly blessed to
be a part of such an amazing community.
For next year, we should encourage the
use of additional edible and even inedible
symbols to promote asking questions.
Encourage everyone to seize this oppor-
tunity to new meaning for a new symbol
for freedom, justice and blessing in a place
where there is still none. JE
Rabbi Barry Dov Lerner is the presi-
dent of Traditional Kosher Supervision,
Inc. Th e Board of Rabbis of Greater
Philadelphia is proud to provide diverse
perspectives on Torah commentary
for the Jewish Exponent. Th e opin-
ions expressed in this column are the
author’s own and do not refl ect the view
of the Board of Rabbis.
Bernard “Bernie”, April 9, 2022 of Nar-
berth, PA. Born in 1927 and raised
in a musical family, took to percus-
sion instruments and was a talented
drummer and bongo player. After
graduating from West Philadelphia
High School, he enrolled at Penn
State and interrupted college to enlist
in the U.S. Navy during World War II.
His ship, the U.S.S. Whittier, supplied
cargo and munitions to ports in the
Pacifi c and Indian Oceans. After the
War, he joined the Bilt-Well Furniture
Company, a family business begun by
his father Charles. He and his broth-
er Mickey developed the business
into two companies, adding Tri-Mark
Designs. At Tri-Mark, Bernie was a vi-
sionary who embraced the modernist
furniture movement of the time. His
innovative styles in metal, glass and
upholstery are now recognized as
classics of the “Mid-Century Modern”
design period. In the 1970’s, a friend
and fellow businessman showed
him a sample of “Ultrasuede” fabric,
a synthetic suede struggling to fi nd
relevance in clothing manufacturing.
Bernie foresaw Ultrasuede’s greater
appeal as an upholstery fabric so he
developed a line of furniture styles to
showcase it. The line’s immediate
success inspired Bernie to pioneer
the distribution of Ultrasuede, now
ubiquitous, to the greater U.S. Home
Furnishings industry. In his leisure
time, Bernie was an accomplished
golfer and was a student of the game.
He was a natural golf teacher who
offered informal tips and lessons that
were valued and enjoyed among his
many playing partners. Bernie is
survived by loving and devoted fam-
ily members, Joan (Levy), his wife of
65 years, sons Craig (Ann), George
(Rafi ) and Roy, grandsons Michael,
Dan and Brian, and an extended
family of relatives and friends. Bernie
maintained lifetime friendships with
childhood buddies from West Phila-
delphia, many of whom he survived
and deeply missed. Please direct
contributions to a charity of donor’s
choice. JOSEPH LEVINE & SONS
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synagogue spotlight
What’s happening at ... Or Zarua
Or Zarua a Spiritual Home for Boomers
JARRAD SAFFREN | STAFF WRITER
F or baby boomers whose kids are
older now, synagogue is less of
a necessity. They do not need a
preschool, a religious school and a path
to a bar or bat mitzvah.
Instead, synagogue is now more of a
choice, and it’s a choice that comes down
to a simple question: How important is
it for you to reinforce and deepen your
Jewish values on a daily basis?
For the 80 or so families at Or Zarua,
a Reconstructionist community on the
Main Line, the answer is very.
Most of the members are both boom-
ers and empty-nesters, according to
Or Zarua Rabbi Shelly Barnathan.
They are only a part of the community
because they want to practice Judaism.
The synagogue doesn’t even have
a building. Barnathan and the con-
gregation hold services and events in
people’s living rooms and at the Old
Haverford Friends Meetinghouse, the
home of a local Quaker community.
Member Ethan Fogel calls Or Zarua
a “co-constructed community.”
What brings Or Zarua members
together is a shared set of values. The
Main Line residents are committed
to tikkun olam, or healing the world,
and a progressive, adaptive approach
to Judaism for the modern world. They
also want to have a say in the syna-
gogue’s operations, as many felt mar-
ginalized in their previous temples,
which were more hierarchical.
But perhaps more than anything,
the congregants believe in appreciating
each other, they say.
Or Zarua means “light is sown.”
“We’re all coming from our own
authentic place, where our light is,”
Barnathan said. “What piece of the
divine is true in us in an authentic way
that we want to share?”
According to congregant Michael
Grossman, Barnathan is often ask-
ing people the question, “What’s your
superpower?” It sounds like an ideal-
istic question designed to inspire, but
really it’s more practical.
The rabbi, explained Grossman, is
looking for people to lead synagogue
programs. A congregant who was the poet
laureate of Montgomery County con-
ducts a poetry program once a month.
Grossman himself loves cooking, so
he coordinates Or Zarua’s community
outreach efforts that involve food.
Barnathan does not even run her
own synagogue’s Torah study class.
She lets a congregant, who happens to
be an expert on the subject, lead that.
The rabbi is, however, one of his most
passionate students.
“I just love that I get to be a partici-
pant,” Barnathan said.
The rabbi started playing that role
five years ago when she went on more
than 100 coffee dates with the people
who would become her congregants.
Barnathan had just completed rab-
binical school after leaving a 32-year
career as a language arts teacher. She
wanted to realize a childhood dream
that wasn’t accessible to her in her
Orthodox community. But she also
wanted to connect more deeply with
her Jewish spirituality, a desire she
recognized in her boomer friends, too.
“I realized that people in our baby
boomer, empty nester cohort had par-
ticular needs,” she said.
But their incumbent synagogues
were not meeting them.
Some felt marginalized even though
they were paying the dues that kept
the temple operating. Others were
disillusioned at the unwillingness of
Conservative leaders to embrace mod-
ern practices like intermarriage. All of
them desired a place where they could
practice Judaism according to their
values. Barnathan, a Reconstructionist
rabbi, applied for and received a
grant of $2,000 from Reconstructing
Judaism, “the central organization
of the Reconstructionist movement,”
according to its website. Then she got
another grant, this one worth $20,000,
which stabilized the community in its
early days.
Over the next five years, Or Zarua
grew from about 45 families to 80. Even
during the pandemic, when it went
fully remote, it gained 10 new member
families, Barnathan said.
Today, the synagogue uses a formal
structure for paying annual dues. But
Or Zarua congregants gather in a member’s home pre-pandemic.
Or Zarua members get together for an outdoor event.
besides that and Barnathan’s status
as senior rabbi, nothing else about Or
Zarua is that hierarchical.
The rabbi tries her best to poll the
entire congregation on big decisions.
She also makes a concerted effort to
reach out to all members regularly. That
way, when a synagogue issue arises in a
specific area, she may just call someone
likely to understand it.
“I put a lot of energy into reaching
out to people,” she said.
About 20-30 people attend Or Zarua’s
Photos by Elliot Barnathan
Shabbat services on Friday nights and
Saturday mornings. More than 60 peo-
ple typically come to bigger events. But
all are still on Zoom due to COVID.
The next step, according to members,
is to figure out how and when to return
to in-person community life.
“It’s limited when we’re just on
Zoom,” said congregant Sari Fogel,
Ethan’s wife. “It’s much richer when
we’re in the space together.” JE
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